Are you an addition to a swinger party spicing things up or are you and your girlfriend active swingers? It doesn’t matter really. What does matter is that you know what to do in order to successfully have threesomes and sex with other swingers. Before I share ten tips on how to be great at swinging, I’ll explain what it means to be one.
What Is A Swinger And How Tips To Be A Good One
Let me start with the definition of a swinger. For those of you who don’t know what a swinger is, it’s an individual that openly has sex with other couples in a no strings attached setting. A swinger can be a single person joining a couple or one member of a couple in a relationship. Most swingers love to fuck so much that they attend local sex parties to hookup with random people.
There are many ways that a couples can add spark to their sex life and a sense of adventure. Few things are more adventurous than deciding to become swingers. It can be scary at times especially if you’re just attending your first swingers party. That’s why I have put together these 10 tips to help you and your partner be successful at swinging or at least be prepared going in.
Ten Important Tips To Swinger Success
Never Get Separated – The first rule that you should always follow is to not get separated. At no point should either of you go off to be with someone else alone at a party for swingers. This is the quickest way to cause serious complications. If you’re simply joining as a single for sex then you’re in luck. You can do whatever you want.
Don’t Be Late – Never show up late to a swingers party. The attendees are likely to be in the moment and a new person coming in late will be distracting and cause the situation to become awkward. You also may not be able to find a spot to jump in.
It’s Okay To Say No – Always remember that you do not have to do anything that you don’t want to and neither does your partner. If either of you ever get uncomfortable or don’t want to do a certain thing or swing with a certain person, do not argue. Just stop. No is always an option.
Be Understanding – Always show compassion for the sensibilities of others. People in the swinging community could have any number of issues that you know nothing about, so you should always be compassionate and understanding toward their feelings.
Always Be Nice – This goes hand in hand with the last rule but it’s worth mentioning on its own. No matter what mood you are in or what you went through that day, never snap at anyone or make them feel uncomfortable. Even if you have to tell someone “no”, do it as nicely as possible.
Always Confirm – Confirming is easy if you use a casual dating website. The group chat function helps people to connect and confirm they are going to the swinger party. That being said, always RSVP to a swinger party and let them know if you will be there. Never wait until the last minute to decide to go and just show up. If you are not interested in going, make sure you let them know that as well. You don’t want the host or other swingers to look at you as flakes.
Show The Host Gratitude – Do not show up at a swinger party with nothing to offer. Bring some alcohol or a gift for the host. You can ask them beforehand if there is anything they would like you to bring. Even if they say you don’t have to bring something, bring it anyway. It’s common courtesy.
Know What to Wear – Wear loose and comfortable clothing that will feel good to wear the entire night. It’s also a good idea to bring some type of robe or soft clothing that you would wear to bed.
Healthy And Clean – Being clean and disease free is an absolute must. Test yourself for diseases and do not attend a swinger party unhealthy. Always take a shower before you go. No one wants to smell your body odor and always make sure your teeth are brushed and your breath is fresh.
Have A Lot Of Fun – The last and one of the most important rules for successful swinging is to have fun. If it ceases to be fun for either of you, stop doing it. Swinging is complicated sometimes but it should never be painful or discomforting.
With those ten tips you cannot go wrong at any swinging event. If you join a dating site, you will likely run into lots of swingers. You don’t have to have a threesome or join swingers for some casual sex, but you must understand and respect the lifestyle. Give it a shot, you might actually enjoy having a fling with a couple. I’ve fucked wives in front of their husbands and enjoyed it! Don’t judge them, join them instead!